What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is the inability to deal with uncertainty; it does not mean you are not good enough, it means that you have insufficient information to deal with a particular situation.

Anxiety is a process not a disorder.

Unfortunately, people have been led to believe that anxiety is not a choice and therefore they have been unable to achieve what they want. Well here’s some news for you and it may come as a surprise, even a shock!

Anxiety is a choice, your choice! And until you accept that you have a choice to be anxious or not, you will not be able to make the necessary changes to improve your life. You are a result of our conscious and subconscious (unconscious) choices, your thoughts.

Anxiety, stress and fear are all the same thing, they are an internal response to a perceived threat.

You have at one time, or another allocated your anxiety/stress to external factors, e.g. your finances, your jobs, your relationships, your exams etc. By blaming something or someone else you actually dis-empower yourself, you give your power away to that someone or something and in doing so you are then unable to make any changes to improve your situation.

Once you accept responsibility for your own anxiety/stress levels, once you own it and accept that you cause it, you can then make the positive changes to improve your lives.

Stress is a fight or flight response during which a biological change take place in your body. There is an increase in cortisol, cholesterol and adrenalin into your blood and blood moves from your major organs to your legs so you can make a run for it. But does this really make sense these days? The last time I walked down the street I didn’t see anyone being chased by a Sabre-toothed tiger! Do you really need this kind of stress response these days? It appears that most of your stress responses are to threats from your lifestyle, jobs, your ego, but not generally physical threats.

We appear to be living with this stress response and this constant feed of stress hormones which is not good for our health. 80% of illnesses have a stress component! The problem is that humans can't differentiate between their imagination and reality. We have very overactive imaginations and tend to blow things out of proportion by overthinking or over analysing things. We let the drunken monkey take over leading us in to anxiety/stress/fear.

Stress is caused by your thoughts, so be careful what you think!

Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want

Stress is not caused by something/someone external to you. It is your response to an event or a person that will decide whether you stress or not.

How you deal with pressures will determine if you stress or not. By taking responsibility for how you respond to an event or a person, you will empower yourself and control the level of stress you experience.

Remember stress is a response to a perceived threat, imaginary or real, humans cannot differentiate between the two.

If you create your own stress, then you must be able to control it must you not? Do you really need medication to do this for you, if you take control of your thoughts?

The truth is you do not perform better when stressed, you perform better when you are more relaxed and calmer.

Think about it, if you were going into surgery and just as you were being put to sleep you heard the surgeon saying omg, omg I’m so stressed, there's so much going on, I don’t know if I can do this, do you think you’ll be saying to yourself, great he’s stressed he’s going to do a great job? I don’t think so! I’m sure you would prefer your surgeon to be focused and calm would you not?

Stress is a process, a series of steps. Find out what steps you need to take to achieve what you want to achieve.

To be stressed you have to have negative thoughts, images and a negative internal voice in your head. Your physiology would be your torso bent forward, shoulders up by your ears, gaze looking downwards, your chest and stomach tight.

To be happy you would have happy thoughts, images and positive internal voice in your head. Your physiology upright, gazing above the horizon, smiling.

In other words your physiology matches your thoughts. Always be aware of both your thoughts and your physiology.

If you continue to think and do the same things you will get the same outcomes!

Take action, your anxiety will not move until you do!

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What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a process not a disorder.